23 Adult Personality Types

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The Manipulator

This person seeks control through domination of others and usually uses charms to achieve her ends.

Characteristics

• True self is hidden from others
  
• Interested in looking good; puts effort into appearance
  
• Self-justifying regarding her bad behavior
  
• Cunning and deceptive
  
• Intent upon exercising and maintaining control
  
• Verbal, articulate and compelling
  
• Subtle aggressive
  
• Manipulates others in ways that obscure clear, objective evidence of aggression
  
• Can make others doubt their gut hunches that they’re being taken advantage of or abused
  
• Takes advantage of vulnerability of others
  
• Sees relationships as a game and people as pawns, objects to be used
  
• Looks for people to deceive and manipulate
  
• Enforces self-work through submission from others
  
• Is terrified of failure
  
• Desires domination as main goal
  
• Denies responsibility for actions, blames others
  
• Expects others to be selfish and manipulative
  

Normal to Extreme
examples of ways to vary the strength of each characteristic. Remember, the ‘norm’ is listed first, then the more extreme counterpart.

• Controlling –actions that dominate others and physical abuse
  

The Manipulator is governed by the need to control people and situations, whether it is done under the guise of charm, sweetness, dependency, or more aggressive deceptions. Domination makes her feel safe and effective; anything else is frightening and threatens a fragile sense of self-esteem.

Examples of Manipulator type characters on Eternal Night
Artemis Enturi

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The Passive-Aggressive

For the Passive-Aggressive, days are lived under a negative cloud. He tries hard, but always feels misunderstood.

Characteristics

• Jealous
  
• Reserved, pessimistic, and ill-tempered
  
• Sulky, resentful and sour )this may be hidden)
  
• Hostility is suppressed, leaving passivity on view
  
• Incapable of remaining passive, so a bad mood erupts
  
• Willing to try hard, but expects the worst
  
• Convinced he is chronically misunderstood
  
• Anxious from the tension that arises from swings between passivity and aggression
  
• Nags others often
  
• Is not physically abusive but has short-lived bursts of temper
  
• Has intense relationships
  
• Dislikes anyone having power over him
  
• Infuriates other people
  
• Behaves in indirect ways
  
• Tries to comply, but cannon keep it up for long
  

Normal to Extreme
examples of ways to vary the strength of each characteristic. Remember, the ‘norm’ is listed first, then the more extreme counterpart.

• Passivity – actions against those people who are close
  

Passive-Aggressive types seem friendly, mild, and easygoing at first, then annoying. They make intense rebellious stands at odd times and are subtly oppositional at other times. They are attracted to tough, controlling partners because that satisfies the passivity, but their aggression eventually emerges against partners or anyone else who has thwarted them.

Examples of Passive-Aggressive type characters on Eternal Night

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The Perfectionist

The Perfectionist has the desire to be not excellent, but perfect. Her standards are extremely high, and failure to meet those standards causes great stress. Many believe that they will be valued only if they are perfect. They experience a sense of pressure coupled with hopelessness and helplessness: “The better I do, the better I am expected to do.”

Characteristics

• Demanding; has exceptionally high standards
  
• Driven to succeed and to avoid failure
  
• Very vulnerable to criticism
  
• Hard worker; tries to avoid criticism and defects
  
• Unable to turn to others for help
  
• Susceptible to intense self-scrutiny and self-doubt
  
• Constantly attempts to prove herself
  
• Wants others to meet her standards of perfection
  
• Believes she must meet the high standards of others to be acceptable
  
• Advertises her own perfection
  
• Avoids situations in which she might appear imperfect
  

Normal to Extreme
examples of ways to vary the strength of each characteristic. Remember, the ‘norm’ is listed first, then the more extreme counterpart.

• Self-criticism – depression
  
• High standards – intense faultfinding of others
  
• Fear of imperfection - lying
  

Some Perfectionists are born, others are made. Winning love through excellent grades, beauty, or performance can drive the Perfectionist in childhood. By adulthood, the Perfectionist drives herself. This type is attractive because of their energy, ambition, and talent, but they get dark and angry when faced with disappointments.

Examples of Perfectionist type characters on Eternal Night

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The Personable

A Personable makes for one of the best friends or colleagues around because of all the easy, delightful qualities she possesses.

Characteristics

• Unruffled, calm, mature, and cooperative
  
• Flexible, warm, easygoing, casual, and trusting
  
• Not creative; better with people than with ideas
  
• Good-hearted; accommodating
  
• Hardworking
  
• Not a risk taker
  
• Is participatory; sees the good in people
  
• Is insightful about people and alert to environmental cues
  
• Likes working in groups rather than alone
  
• Gets along with everyone; well liked
  
• Joins groups and clubs to make friends, not for causes
  

Normal to Extreme
examples of ways to vary the strength of each characteristic. Remember, the ‘norm’ is listed first, then the more extreme counterpart.

• Fondness for people and dislike of being alone – hasty marriage
  
• Enthusiasm – hasty, poor decisions
  
• Ability to see the good in people – gullibility or being manipulated
  
• Interest in being with people – hypochondria to get attention
  
• Desire for others’ approval – compromising one’s own beliefs
  
• Too much socializing – not getting work done
  

Personable types have plenty of good friends and are adept at making new ones; this can lead to being overwhelmed and losing sight of her personal priorities. Although they are natural leaders because they understand how to get consensus, they are not usually ambitious or creative enough to be in the top position.

Examples of Personable type characters on Eternal Night

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The Problem Solver

The Problem Solver is someone we all want to have in our corner when we get into a mess, but he can stumble by being too capable for others and not capable enough for himself.

Characteristics

• Resourceful; reliable and mature
  
• Able to face reality, but may lack imagination
  
• Disciplined; can exercise restraint
  
• Stable; not easily influenced by emotions of others
  
• Emotionally steady with no wide swings or dips in feelings
  
• Internally motivated; can achieve goals
  
• Pleased with himself; little self-blame
  
• Sticks to projects; perseveres
  
• Is not easily disturbed
  
• Is savvy in relationships; knows how to get his point across
  
• Does not panic easily; good under fire
  
• Makes the best out of what life offers
  

Normal to Extreme
examples of ways to vary the strength of each characteristic. Remember, the ‘norm’ is listed first, then the more extreme counterpart.

• Coping skills – excessive self-sufficiency
  

The traits of Problem Solvers are usually in evidence in childhood when their efficiency is notable. In adulthood, their abilities continue to be rewarded in many fields such as engineering or law. Their process goes like this: Recognize a problem – generate options – make choices – follow through.

Examples of Problem Solver type characters on Eternal Night

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The Resilient

Life is no different for Resilients than for others, but they have the remarkable ability to recover from life’s losses and disappointment.

Characteristics

• Happy most of the time
  
• Productive; has good concentration
  
• Able to cope with adversity with a minimum of stress
  
• Motivated; effective problem solver
  
• Willing and able to take responsibility for her own life
  
• Possesses a good sense of humor
  
• Ethical; has high standards
  
• Able to face problems and take personal control
  
• Has personal goals: fame, power, money, career growth, community, children
  
• Is interested in others as well as in self
  
• Uses physical activity to combat stress
  
• Maintains a strong support network
  

Normal to Extreme
examples of ways to vary the strength of each characteristic. Remember, the ‘norm’ is listed first, then the more extreme counterpart.

• Independence – an inability to depend on others
  

Resilient types suffer disappointments and feel lost just like everyone else, but they remain confident that they will survive and have mastery over their lives. They have goes which keep them on course, strong social supports, and positive attitudes about life.

Examples of Resilient type characters on Eternal Night
Rhyme Enturi

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The Show-Off

The Show-Off requires an audience; being alone can feel unrewarding. But for others, being with a Show-Off can seem like being trapped in unending theater.

Characteristics

• Active and alert
  
• Intolerant of frustration
  
• Immature and unhelpful
  
• Expressive with shifting emotions
  
• Can be undercontrolled and aggressive
  
• Ostentatious
  
• Is often a show-off, which interferes with relationships
  
• Is effective with people and tasks
  
• Is socially outgoing
  
• Can be oblivious to others
  
• Wants to be admired
  
• Is sarcastic
  
• Has trouble sharing
  

Normal to Extreme
examples of ways to vary the strength of each characteristic. Remember, the ‘norm’ is listed first, then the more extreme counterpart.

• Expressive can become – aggressive
  

Show-Offs can be fun because of their active, outgoing natures. They can also get annoying when they demand excessive attention with little regard for others. Many Show-Offs are able to channel their qualities very well.

Examples of Show-Off type characters on Eternal Night
Freya Elensar

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The Ultra-Feminine

The Ultra-Feminine is to women what the Man’s Man is to men. Not surprisingly, they often wind up together.

Characteristics

• Stereotypical feminine behaviors
  
• Exaggerated qualities of naïveté and innocence
  
• Nurturing, passive, and soft
  
• Tendency to take on traditional feminine roles
  
• Constricted emotionally; self-pitying
  
• Helpless and dependent
  
• Indirect, modest, and coy
  
• Idealistic
  
• Has difficulty expressing anger or handling conflict
  
• Is accepting or stereotypical male behaviors
  
• Boosts men’s egos: flirts
  
• Is submissive and yielding; seductive
  
• May doubt own adequacy as a woman
  

Normal to Extreme
examples of ways to vary the strength of each characteristic. Remember, the ‘norm’ is listed first, then the more extreme counterpart.

• Flirtatiousness – loss of herself
  

Ultra-feminine t ypes have usually been rewarded for their femininity. Girls and women are not threatened by them; boys and men want to flirt with or care for them. The downside is they are not seen as substantial, so an Ultra-Feminine is seldom the one people turn to for help in a time of crisis. On a personal level, they have avoided negative emotions, so when they are confronted with conflict, they have little experience with feelings of pain and rage.

Examples of Ultra-Feminine type characters on Eternal Night

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The Victim

Life for the Victim is filled with themes of lack of self-determination and control. Victims are always convinced that others are more in command than they are.

Characteristics

• Filled with rage that is buried, and therefore not strongly felt
  
• Unaware of his own hostile behaviors
  
• Troubled by feelings of weakness and impotence; wants to feel safe
  
• Pessimistic and negative about life
  
• Put-upon; feels and acts burdened
  
• Rarely happy; pleasure results in anxiety so it must be avoided
  
• Tendency to turn self-denial into social concerns: “I cannot buy new shoes because others have none”
  
• Inhibited, serious, responsible, and unassuming
  
• Emotionally flat; has no deep feelings either of love or hate
  
• Vaguely depressed and helpless when left alone
  
• Feels mistreated; distrustful of others
  
• Tries to please others, but self-sacrifice leads to bitterness and more suffering
  
• Is convinced that he is constantly suffering and is proud that he or she is able to “take it”
  
• Wants to avoid abandonment
  
• Continues loving others who may treat him badly
  
• Is unable to be self-protective because of constant self-blame
  
• Is demanding; inordinate need for affection
  
• Is unable to receive pleasure; has sexual dysfunction in relationships
  
• Depends on others, but relationships often repeat humiliation and defeat
  
• Complains but does not change; displays defeat to the world; says, “No one can help”
  
• Frustrates those who want to help, makes them ineffectual and arouses their anger
  
• Is indirect; appears compliant but may be secretly manipulative
  
• May have learned to enjoy defeat as a way of surviving with pride
  
• Tries to “be good” and “goes along” to avoid being alone
  
• Wants to arouse guilt in others, and hopes that guilt will become love
  

Normal to Extreme
examples of ways to vary the strength of each characteristic. Remember, the ‘norm’ is listed first, then the more extreme counterpart.

• Lack of self-care – trouble; for example, marrying an alcoholic or sticking with an abusive boss
  
• Unassertiveness – being endlessly stuck
  
• Proud of sacrifice, being able to “take it” – depression and suffering
  
• Fear of being alone – denial of danger from others
  
• Confusion of mistreatment with affection – poor judgment of abusive behaviors
  
• Need to avoid abandonment – verbal, physical, or sexual abuse to be endured
  

The Victim feels impotent from an early age. He has little success with independence so anger grows, but remains hidden. The Vicctim has no belief that he can succeed alone, gain respect, or make effective changes. Therefore, loyalty to bosses, friends, or partners changes from admirable traits to a trap that he cannot leave, even after mistreatment.

Examples of Victim type characters on Eternal Night